These were among the questions I've been asking myself since the past weekend. What seems to be perfect college life and awesome weekend turned bad, weird, and unnecessarily stupid.
I don't like to write, which I'm sure you have figured this out by now. My last post was, God knows, last century. I only write when I'm at my lowest or my highest, that's when stuff just flows out and today is going to be one of my lows.
This is not so much a debate about whether learning pick up is good thing or a bad thing, it's about how you use the skill in life. I, for one know that it has been a good skill and it's still is. Never would have been the person I am today without it. But sometimes, people tend to lose track of themselves. They get lost in the midst of it. Learning how to approach girls and getting numbers seems to be the only result they're after. Yes, I'm referring to myself.
I'm not saying literally this is what I'm doing, to be honest, I don't get as much numbers as I want to, I never did anyway but people say hi to me, someone who is actually a stranger to me and then I realised that I've actually spoken to her sometime when college just started. People know me, and I've recently just found out that people was saying I'm a big flirt and if I'm correct, there's also "playa" undertone to it. Seriously, a player??!! 2 years ago, I could barely look at a person eyes long enough and now suddenly people knows me as the abnormally friendly person. So this ain't bad. I've been actively trying to create awesome social circle and so far so good.
On the flip side, when you're blinded and chasing after things which don't matter, you will get lost and the REAL you -that nice guy personality that you SO want to CRUSH when you first started PUA journey- starts to fade away, that personality that makes you, YOU. All the habits that the community deem useless in your pursuit of having women in your life should be thrown away, and throw away I did. And today there are actions that I've taken that I regret today because the nice guy in me wouldn't have been so brave to kiss the girl that he's interested in and get into trouble for it.
Yes, learning pick up does helps you tremendously on getting more women in your life but NO, it doesn't get the girls that you want all the time. I've got into a little bit of trouble with this girl we shall call V. She's 19. She's part of my close social circle. Very friendly, very hyper, energetic, typical 19 year old. All good, except you tend to forget they can be immature. We downplay the immature part most of the time, to be honest, I do too, come on, killer body, flirtatious as hell, we will downplay anything bad to get in her pants. Long story short, house party, few friends, few gay people, she's bad with alcohol so she drank a lot and got tipsy and shit, I had a few drinks too but I know what is going on. We've been flirting in the past, she knows I'm interested in her and I know she's adventurous, so we kissed and we enjoyed it and we went further to touching, and it's obvious both, me and her were enjoying it. Guess what? On her way home, she decided that she didn't like it so she told her 2 girl friends, whom one of them is a really close friend of mine lets call her S. The rest is history, now V is ignoring me and my good friend S had lost her trust in me. Because in their mind I "bullied" her into kissing because she had a few to drink. In their point of view she's a girl and I'm the boy so that make me automatically a bad person because I should be responsible. That part of the social circle that I've built is gone.
The worst part is, her story was so vague that she didn't even tell the whole thing and she just knocked off after that coz she was drunk and some people who are mad at me, didn't even know what happen that night because it was such a low profile thing. I would never do anything to hurt a girl but that night, I've just realised that there are things that you cannot control and shit will hit the fan real hard and fast if you're not careful. I know for a fact that V enjoyed it as much as I did and it's unfair for anyone to go through shit like this, and I thought she was better than that.
Does that mean, I hate pick up? No, this only made me want to learn even more or to learn to better my mistakes, this just goes to show sometimes hot girls are not worth the squeeze, in fact, it's a big turn off and from being interested with the girl, I've just come to pity her for being hypocrite.
Before you go all sexist on me, NO, I'm not hating women because of her. I have a lot of love and respect for woman. This is purely a personality and it's her character of a person that is such a turn off.
What I'm trying to say is, never forget the person you are! It's that nice guys personality that makes you, YOU! Learn pick up to enrich your life, not take value from others. Be honest about what you want as a person, be truthful about you.
I always ask this to myself "Is this me?"
Have a think about it
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